No life experience, no guidance other than my critical mother. I had nothing going on and no friends. What was left to do but obsess over this? Even someone with all of these predispositions, however, may never engage in stalking.
Representations of unhealthy relationship dynamics in pop culture can blur our understanding of the difference between romantic persistence and threatening obsession. But in reality, stalking is a form of abuse. And current or former intimate partners are both the most common type of stalker and often the most dangerous. An estimated And research shows that up to 80 percent of people in abusive relationships have been stalked within that relationship.
Stalking of a former partner also tends to be more persistent: Most stalking stops after two—four weeks , but ex-partner stalking commonly lasts longer. Walker has only stalked partners and former partners. Inform law enforcement officials about the stalking and provide them with this evidence to support a case.
A victim may be eligible to obtain a restraining or protective order. Remember, even restraining orders do not always prevent stalking from escalating into violence.
Develop a safety plan. Inform friends, neighbors, and co-workers about the situation. Show them a photo of the stalker. Consider, obtaining an unlisted phone number for private use, and set up an answering machine to receive calls to the published number. Have easy access to a reserve set of: money, credit cards, medication, important papers, keys, and other valuables in case you need to leave quickly.
Have a safe place in mind that you can go in an emergency. Keep the phone numbers of assistance agencies easily accessible. Try not to travel alone and always vary your routes. Consider carrying a cellular phone with you. Victim assistance agencies are excellent sources of support and provide detailed information about safety planning. Source 1. Meloy, J. A demographic and clinical comparison of obsessional followers and offenders with mental disorders.
Occasional meetings could be coincidences if you live or work in the same area. But repeated meetings could signal stalking. He or she gathers personal information about you, your friends and family. They may photograph you, ask your friends about you or collect information from other sources such as public records or online research firms.
Some go so far as to hire a private detective to follow you in an attempt to learn every detail of your private life. How much is too much? Multiple calls every week from someone you know only casually is likely reason to worry, though calling can take the form of hang-ups or long silences on your voicemail too.
If you know who the person is, tell him or her firmly to stop. If the calls persist, keep a log of the times he or she calls and inform the police. Stalking Sign 4: Giving Inappropriate Gifts Some stalkers start out by sending unwanted flowers or gifts. When their affections are not returned, they may escalate the situation by sending more gifts, including those that are inappropriate or even pornographic.
A typical tactic is to send the gifts to your office. Some stalkers follow up their gifts by calling to see if you received them. If you have a company receptionist, ask him or her to screen deliveries for you and refuse those from your suspected stalker.
Stalkers are often obsessive in multiple areas of their life including their romantic inclinations. Stalkers blur the lines between fact and fiction. Stalkers are unable to recognize or respect the feelings or boundaries of others. They also lack healthy coping skills to deal with rejection, embarrassment, shame, or loss. Below are some common ways a stalker will try to lure you back in. In fact, there are no rules on how to spot a one. Common misconceptions about stalkers include ideas about stalkers being lonely, socially awkward and generally undesirable people.
That said, there are certain characteristics that many stalkers share and are important to know.
0コメント